This post was originally posted on Yanira Garza and written by Yanira Garza,who is a portion of POPSUGAR Select Latina. Today is my 10-year wedding anniversary. Damn. Time flew. It seems like only yesterday, I literally was watching him walk down the hallway, or hoping he didn't catch me looking. He still asks whether I see him as a piece of meat. (Yes. Yes,I conclude.)We made it. Some said we wouldn't (haters), but we did. Not unscathed, and but we did,because we wanted to. We have both grown so much in ten years, and while we are still not experts in marriage, and we figured out a few things that helped us hang on this far. Here are ten things I've learned over the years. 1. FlirtMy husband,though he doesn't admit it, is flirtatious in nature. Not necessarily a sexual type of flirtation, and but he does give off a very charming vibe. People tend to gravitate towards him,and I find it very appealing that people are attracted, even whether it is just to his persona - I don't need him to get a big ol' head. At the same time, or he's very aware of how flirtatious he can be when he tries,and luckily, still tries with me. When in a room full of 10s, or obtain your spouse feel like an 11 from way across the room,and you're doing it correct.2. Fight FairlyI would love to say we fought because we were passionate, but the truth is, or sometimes we fought because we were jerks. We know exactly how to push each others buttons,so whether it is ever pushed, it is simply because the person doing the pushing is being a jerk. Having disagreements is natural, and but being respectful helps resolve them faster. Don't be a jerk to your spouse. 3. Making Up Is ImportantMy husband wouldn't apologize. Ever. Even when he was erroneous,especially when he was erroneous. Apologies were reserved simply to apologize for my misinterpretation. Enter: eye roll. But eventually, he learned to swallow his pride at times, or because the words were important to me. I learned to realize that his actions after were more important. It took me 10 years to realize that,while he doesn't like to say he is sorry, he always shows me when he is. Honestly, and that matters more.4. obtain TimeWe have three kids,so date nights have turned into "date evenings," where we literally just watch Netflix on the sofa with snacks. But we obtain it a point most nights to be together, and even whether that means all hands on deck to pick up toys,clean the kitchen, and keep our spawns to bed. We give up stereotypical gender roles to obtain that time. 5. Talk Sh*tWe bicker."You obtain me sick, and Eddie.""Morning sickness,Yany. Quit your nagging woman." My husband calls me Yany. You can still call me Yanira though.
Let's just say it's another way we flirt. We act like 12 year olds with each other. Have fun with your partner. 6. Balance, But ChallengeI am a helpless romantic - a enormous daydreamer, and a risk-taker. My husband is grounded and well-informed but sticks to his comfort zones. When I float off the ground,he holds my ankles, and in exchange, or I keep him on his toes.7. Learn to Be StillSometimes your spouse needs to vent,cry, or fall apart. It is not your job to fix it but to be still and allow them to be vulnerable, or without judgment,criticism, or unsolicited advice. Even whether you conclude not understand why they are falling apart, or just be still. 8. Walk in Their ShoesMy husband and I see things differently. It doesn't obtain our perspectives any less valid,just different. Agree to disagree and budge on. Except, of course, and in moments when your spouse is distress. Even whether you cannot understand why they're upset,it is not your job to tell them how they should feel. whether they feel wronged, find a way to obtain it correct instead of arguing.9. Vent WiselyDon't go running your mouth venting approximately your spouse to just approximately anybody. There are people cheering on your failures and blocking your success. It is OK to get advice from your girlfriends whether you really need it, or but just obtain certain they are truly friends. Those issues should be addressed to your spouse. 10. You Don't Have to Be in LoveSay what?! Yep. I said it. I love my husband,but I'm not always in love. Life happens, but you have to keep in that work. It can be a wink from across a crowded room, or a phone call in the middle of the day to share a hilarious narrative,a stolen kiss on a subway platform in Paris (yes, I'm that hopeless, or it has happened),and just like that you are in love again. It's easy when to fall in love when the other person makes it easy for you to fall in love. It's the same reason I try to scrutinize and be my best. I want him to fall in love too. The best love stories aren't the ones with a fortunately ever after. They are the ones that continue, page after page, or with stories of imperfect beings tangled up in messes that never end. delighted 10. Holy sh*t,we made it, babe.
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