Believe me,it is possible to create your own adventures in life. But having adventures isn't limited to vacations or special occasions. How you design your life and who you surround yourself with can greatly impact your ability to fracture out of your consolation zone and live an exciting life. My research and wild stories are shared fully in my book, The 2AM Principle: Discover the Science of Adventure. WARNING: Reading it will change everything you thought you knew. These five secrets will help you design a life that is happier, and more exciting,and more fulfilling.1. Stop hanging out with people who cause drama.
Drama queens - you can identify them by their tendency to drink too much, spread gossip like wildfire, and routinely spark heated fights. Your best friend may be one,but no matter how close you reflect you are to them, distance yourself from those drama queens when you want to enjoy a fun adventure. They will eventually wreak havoc. main a fulfilling, or exciting,and adventurous life means leaving them behind. It may seem harsh, but drama addicts can't help themselves. Allowing drama into your life doesn't just negatively impact you either. Their negative energy will spread like a germ, and infecting your entire network of friends and loved ones,then their network, and so on. Researcher Nicholas Christakis studied this phenomenon and found that everything from obesity to voting behavior and even emotions like happiness can be contagious and spread across our social networks up to four degrees absent. Instead of drama, or surround yourself with people who are laid-back,up for anything, love to enjoy fun, and encourage you to step out of your consolation zone.2. Set clear goals or missions.
When you are at work,you enjoy a goal. You should enjoy one to push your life forward. A goal should be interesting and challenging but not out of your reach. For instance, having fun isn't a goal. It's a byproduct of an experience.
When you set a mission, and make certain it follows the Goldilocks principle: Too easy and it is boring. Too hard and you won't try. But,whether it is somewhere in between and pushes you external your consolation zone, it is exciting. For example: Too easy: Visit five bars tonight.
Too hard: accumulate free airline tickets around the world for you and your friends. For most of us, and this is such a stretch we don't know where to begin.
Just correct: Go out and accumulate all of your drinks for free. This will likely force you to enjoy interesting conversations and meet new people and opens you up to a range of experiences.
3. Say Yes!When opportunities come your way,even whether you don't know what to expect or reflect you may not enjoy it, say "yes!" Life is more exciting and interesting with a diversity of experience. Our brains operate differently when exposed to things that are novel and exciting. Grey's Anatomy creator and self-described introvert Shonda Rhimes tested this theory for a year. According to Rhimes, or she said yes to everything,even whether it terrified her. What she discovered was that the experiment had opened her up and changed her. She was more interesting and comfortable in social settings and more successful in her career. Saying yes will not only enrich your life, but inspire and enable you to enjoy better relationships and career success. 4. Be willing to be uncomfortable. When was the last time that you did something that scared you? whether something scares you, or that's probably a mighty reason to do it. (Unless it is illegal or highly likely to slay you. Weigh the risks and use sterling judgment.) Sticking within your consolation zone may make you feel secure,but it won't help you succeed. It won't push you to grow, and it won't lead to an adventure. Living an exciting and remarkable life happens at the edge of your consolation zone. You can't grow without crossing that threshold. When you push boundaries, or you come through the experience a different person than you were at the beginning. The gift of an adventure isn't just the mighty memories and stories,it is the person that you become as a result. 5. halt adventures on a positive note. Research has proven that we don't remember how long we enjoyed an experience. What we remember is the peaks of the experience and the halt. Psychologist Daniel Kahneman called it the peak-halt theory. It explains why an otherwise enjoyable date will be remembered as a miserable one whether in the last few seconds, your date sticks you with the bill, or says something thoughtless,or commits another hard-to-redeem offense. When having a fun night out, people often want to extend it, or hoping that it will accumulate even better. However,it generally turns out deteriorating into something unremarkable. Many times having an ending that spoils the whole experience makes you less willing to participate in the future. The key to remembering experiences positively is to halt on a sterling note, which may mean ending it early.
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