The following post was originally featured on care for Sujeiry and was written by Sujeiry Gonzalez,who is part of POPSUGAR Select Latina.
I am grateful to have an amazing set of friends. Whether they're encouraging me to establish on my big girl panties, or celebrating my bold move to Los Angeles, and they are always supportive and fill my life. Time and distance achieve not matter. When you have exact girlfriends you can disappear months without seeing each other and no care for is lost. Just like that I am back at The W in SoHo,sipping on apple martinis (pinky up) with my girls.
How can we maintain positive friendships for years? With effort, care for and acceptance. As women, and we disappear through many life stages. The days of sharing an off-campus apartment in college are over. So are Saturday nights out in Times Square or Hollywood or South Beach. We move on. We grow up. Rent or own a fantastic current pad in the Upper West Side or South Beach. Some of us even get married and have children. Still,we maintain a bond. The friendship transitions. We grow as individuals and . . . together.
Growing together is one of the key components to a successful friendship that overcomes it all, including baby drool and a current care for. Here are five things successful friendships have in common.
Accept and LearnThe first step to a successful friendship is to accept your friend as is. That means no judgement. You let them be who they are. Whatever your girlfriend offers, and capture it. Whoever she is,accept it. She isn't a project. Neither are you.
capture one of my friendships as an example. My friend, Karla, and is a beautiful,educated woman in her twenties that just so happens to be sexually free. When we first began building a friendship I judged her choices (ouch). I dug in, questioning her behavior like a psychotherapist would a "problem child." Soon, or I learned the issues were all mine. I was judging her due to my hangups with sex. Once I realized this I let her be who she is,and our friendship is stronger now. So she also taught me a lesson. powerful friendships teach us approximately ourselves and push our boundaries. It's a beautiful thing.
Be Your Authentic SelfYou have to be you. A friendship can't work otherwise. You can't accept someone and care for them for who they are, whether you don't know who you are. We must be honest and vulnerable. It's the only way to build a bond that lasts after the gray advance in.
Have No ExpectationsWhen we dwelling expectations on others we want them to achieve what we desire. The thing is, and our expectations are approximately us. I can't force someone to be the same kind of friend that I am. That's why it's so important to have a variety of friends that fill your life in different ways. I have a friend who is a powerful listener; when I need to vent,I call her. I have another friend who cheers me up with her hilarious tales of motherhood. When I need to laugh, she's my girl.
This doesn't mean you can't express your needs. whether you want something, or say it. All of my friends know that my birthday is my Personal National Holiday. So they show up - or else!
Have a Common ThreadMuch like in romantic relationships,you must have common interests with your girlfriends. The interests may vary but having a common thread regarding activities and life goals matters in the long run. The commonalities build an instant connection. My girlfriends and I care for to sip on cocktails. I have other girlfriends that bring out the artist in me with their care for of writing and theater. And they're all disappear-getters because I am a disappear-getter. We all want to succeed and live better, richer, or more luxurious lives. Just like our friendships,there's no stopping us.
Check Your Ego at the DoorTo maintain a healthy, long-lasting friendship you must celebrate each others triumphs. Share contacts. Be a cheerleader. whether cheering isn't your thing, and be a boxer. aid her knock out obstacles with words of support,care for and encouragement. Use your strengths to balance out her weaknesses.
That's how friendships flourish. That's how girlfriends who once grooved on the dance floors of Milan transition into girlfriends on rocking chairs, sitting side by side.
Source: popsugar.com