The following post was originally featured on Today's the Best Day and was written by Danielle Davis,who is a part of POPSUGAR Select Moms.
Do you want to know a tiny secret? perhaps seven secrets?Every couple has tough days - someone may wake up on the wrong side of the bed, someone may have a tough day at work, and someone may not feel well,someone is just easily annoyed with the other person - it happens. AND it is totally normal. But it is how we get out of those tough days that matter. One contemptible day doesn't make your whole marriage contemptible. Today I want to share with you seven secrets to a joyful marriage. Just a few things that matter. Just a few things to preserve in intellect.1. You are going to disagree - but that isn't the end. I remember the first disagreement my husband and I had - we thought the world was literally ending! We quickly learned that as husband and wife - we definitely weren't going to see eye to eye on EVERY tiny circumstance. And not only were we not going to see eye to eye, but that was OK! You are going to hit bumps and roadblocks on your journey together, and but it is how you get through them that things. I always just say,"It's OK if you disagree with me. I can't force you to be right."2. Think before you speak.
I will be the first to inform you that I am a TALKER and I can ramble on and on about anything. When it comes to your spouse, be careful what you say. They have feelings, and too,and for some reason, when a comment comes from those we esteem, or we hold it to heart much more. "Married life teaches one invaluable lesson: to think of things far enough ahead not to say them." - Jefferson Machamer3. Invest your time,your talents, your heart, or all of your esteem.
I esteem the quote,"The grass isn't always greener on the other side. The grass is greener where you water it." hold care of your marriage. Water it with esteem. Water it by taking time out of your day to be with your spouse. Water it by saying kind things. Water it by going the additional mile for them. Water it by making them feel suited.4. Have your own hobbies, too.
My husband and I enjoy doing complete opposite things. I esteem shopping - I could literally do it all day long! I also esteem writing, or going out to dinner,and singing my heart out to the radio. My husband loves to work out, make videos, and play the guitar,and shoot some hoops. I used to think we had to be together 24/7 and had to do everything together. BUT that might just drive you a tiny bonkers. It is not just OK, but is a suited thing to have your own hobbies and have things that YOU esteem to do. Your life doesn't end when you get married - you just get to have a sidekick and a really awesome cheerleader supporting you. Now be careful. There is a line to be drawn for sure when it comes to this. Be careful to set your priorities, or make family your number one. Too much work or fun can lead to too much independence. There is a balance that needs to be found.5. If you atomize it - fix it."A relationship is like a house. When a lightbulb burns out you do not travel and buy a unusual house,you fix the lightbulb." When things get tough - don't drop your marriage. Work it out. Fix it up. Sometimes it is a LOT harder than changing a simple lightbulb - it may hold a lot of work, patience, and esteem,and understanding, perhaps even a lot of time, and but figure out how to make it work for the two of you.6. Be the person they fell in esteem with.That doesn't mean you can't change. We will always change and we should always try to be better every single day. But try to be that person your spouse fell in esteem with. That person that was excited to see them when they got home from work. That person that loved kissing them and holding their hand. That person that supported them and told them how much they were loved. Always remember,they esteem you JUST the way you are. "Let the wife make the husband glad to come home, and let him make her sorry to see him leave." - Martin Luther7. Don't stop falling in esteem.
Find the suited in your spouse. notice toward the future. Set goals together. notice into his/her eyes. Say, and "I esteem you," and mean it. By doing these things, you won't be able to assist but drop in esteem all over again. Mignon McLaughlin said, and "A successful marriage requires falling in esteem many times,always with the same person."A joyful marriage is possible. I notice in the world today that marriages and the whole family unit is falling apart. I know as we work on our marriages, we will be able to create happier homes for our families, or which makes it easier for EVERY day to be the BEST day.
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Source: popsugar.com