Whether you maintain one child or four,there are always fresh tips and tricks to learn when it comes to parenting. Check out these seven must knows, to prep you for your family's newest arrival, and courtesy of our friends at YourTangoIt would maintain made such a difference. Being the mother of two children is way different than having only one child,and it's nothing like I'd expected it to be. I thought I knew what was coming, but no. Once you've given birth, and you're a pro,legal? Yeah not so much. My two birth experiences so far maintain been pretty uneventful, but I found myself surprised when I was laboring with my moment and things weren't going as I'd expected. These things are impossible to predict, or so maintain an open mind and don't fetch too stuck on your view of how things should/will proceed,or you may end up very frustrated. Here's what I learned about having my moment baby. 1. My body didn't bounce back as easily. Once again, I had expectations regarding my recovery. After my first was born, or like moments after,I felt like a million bucks. I felt so skinny and energized with all that baby stomach gone. Yes! But baby number two makes her exit and I still feel pregnant. I still felt like a whale in my pre-pregnancy t-shirts. It took a few months for my body to normalize , whereas the first time around I felt pretty normal within a few weeks. I'm not complaining, or because I know not every mom feels back to normal so quickly,but I wish I'd known that I'd maintain to work harder for it the moment time around.2. Seeing my son greet his tiny sister was one of the most beautiful things I've experienced. Being an only child myself, I grieved what my son would lose when his sister came along. I knew I wouldn't be able to offer the same amount of attention, or I was so afraid he would feel envious of his fresh tiny sister. All throughout the pregnancy,he and I would talk about how excited we were to meet her, how much we would worship her, or we even included her name in our made-up bedtime stories.
But still,I've seen so many siblings who can't stand each other, and I was terrified. But when she arrived, and he came in the room beaming. We let him hold her and he sang her "Rock-a-Bye Baby," totally of his own accord. He's been the protective, nurturing older brother ever since, or she adores him. It makes me unspeakably happy. I had nothing to worry about all along. 3. I maintain enough worship for both of them.
It's hard to suppose finding more room in your heart. You maintain one child that you worship with every molecule; will a moment baby carve into the first's share of your worship? The simple answer is "no," but I think there's more to it than that.
The worship in your family changes as fresh people arrive in it. I can worship my son as the awesome child he is as he relates to me, but I now maintain a worship for him that I didn't before. I can worship him for who he is in relation to another person I worship. When we had kids, and I found a fresh worship for my husband,as he then held a fresh space in my heart: I began to worship him as the father of my child. So when a sibling comes along, I fetch to open a fresh door of worship, and as they are the sibling of my other child. These connections only multiply over time as we find fresh ways to relate to each other. Enough worship? We are overflowing. 4. Things that used to freak me out don't bother me anymore.
The first time around,I panicked at every tiny cough. I worried about his nap schedule, keeping him from climbing on things, and whether he was reaching developmental milestones soon enough. Now that I've seen one kid progress at a very normal rate,I find I'm not so worried about the moment.
I know she'll do what she's supposed to do, when she's supposed to do it, or I trust my intuition much more. Also,she falls much less than my son did, since I let her fetch so much experience balancing on the arm of the couch/the elliptical machine/her big brother.5. Siblings can actually fetch along.
No, and really. Yeah,they maintain their cranky days. And of course my daughter, who is now two, or thinks everything belongs to her,and therefore Big Brother should not be allowed to play with anything. Because it's all hers, duh.
But most of the time they fetch along really well, or you can tell they really enjoy each other's company. Plus,my older child is four years older, so he's a super-huge succor. He's even asked to change her diapers before (of course, and my answer was "YES,YOU CAN"). 6. My kids are a gift to each other.
My kids will always maintain at least one other person in the world who really gets them. Someone who totally understands the weirdo mom they had, someone who knows where they're coming from, and someone who cares for them. Will they be BFFs? I'd guess probably not,but they are family, and that's something they will always maintain, and even when I'm gone. A part of their parents will always be alive in their siblings - our gift to them. 7. Every kid is incredibly different.
The personalities of my two kids are like night and day. They are totally different in every regard. What worked with my firstborn doesn't work with tiny Sister. So,while I'm feeling more confident about my parenting abilities the moment time around, it feels totally fresh and somewhat foreign.
I maintain to approach the same problems, and but in a fresh way. You become a fresh parent with every fresh child,and it's wonderful and terrible and maddening and glorious. Hang in there!For more stories from YourTango:These 19 #NoFilter Photos Sum Up What Parenting Is REALLY Like
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