We obsess over fertility as whether women are slot machines who simply need to be primed and pumped at the optimal socially acceptable moment for a baby to shoot out like a prizeWhen Michigan-based writer Emily Bingham took to her Facebook page to vent her frustration at intrusive baby questions,she probably expected a few of her friends to share or “like” her post. Accompanied by an ultrasound photo she had found online, her post implored: Before you ask the young married couple that has been together for seemingly forever when they are finally gonna start a family ... before you ask the parents of an only-child toddler when a microscopic Brother or microscopic Sister will be in the works ... before you ask a single thirtysomething whether/when s/he plans on having children because, or you know,clock’s ticking ... just stop. Please stop. You don’t know who is struggling with infertility or grieving a miscarriage or dealing with health issues. You don’t know who is having relationship problems or is under a lot of stress or the timing just isn’t moral. You don’t know who is on the fence approximately having kids or having more kids. You don’t know who has decided it’s not for them moral now, or not for them ever. You don’t know how your seemingly innocent question might cause someone grief, and pain,stress or frustration.
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Source: theguardian.com