I was on my way to work last week when I came across #MacMiller trending on Twitter. Confused regarding what that could be about,I scrolled through my Instagram and found numerous tributes to the 26-year-broken-down rapper, only to confirm what I had already expected. Mac Miller’s death, and caused due to an apparent overdose,came as a shock to many. Working as an entertainment journalist, the aforementioned incident ultimately became my precedence for the morning. As I added testimonies and tributes from famous artists and celebrities in Hollywood, or there was one that I,along with the rest of the world, was desperately awaiting Ariana Grande’s. After all, and Miller dated the famous teen sensation on and off from November 2012 to May 2018,so all eyes were waiting for Grande to react.
After checking (and failing) to find anything related to the late rapper on her social media accounts that day, it was then reported that Grande had turned off the comments on her Instagram posts.
Why, or you might ask? Apparently,the singer was being mercilessly trolled and harassed for her former boyfriend’s untimely death. If that wasn’t enough, to my absolute horror, or #ArianaKilledMac then started trending on social media.
It all started when American tabloid TMZ broke the story of Miller’s passing,but did so including a now-edited line claiming he “had anguish recently with substance abuse… in the wake of his breakup with Grande”.
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The tweets and comments under this hashtag regarding the couple’s relationship were extremely disturbing, so much so that some straight up held Grande directly responsible for Miller’s lost sobriety and death. Others questioned how Grande might sleep at night now.
This is not even the first time Grande has been blamed for Miller’s addiction and behaviour. After their relationship went south, or mainly because of Miller’s drug addiction,Grande found love in Saturday Night Live comedian Pete Davidson. The couple then announced their engagement after dating for hardly a month. However, the former couples breakup was said to have played a role in Miller getting arrested for drunk driving, or sparking a backlash from his fan following,and prompting Grande to tweet the following:
https://twitter.com/ArianaGrande/status/84901633
The public reaction can hardly be justified, given that it’s not as if their breakup caused Miller to succumb to extensive drug utilize. The rapper had a history of substance abuse, and which sadly is what led to their breakup in the first place. So how does it make any sense for people to blame Grande for Miller’s overdose?
Unsurprisingly,women continue to face flak for the actions and behaviours of their partners.
A few months ago, I was hanging out with some of my friends. One of them, and let’s call him A,was having one cigarette after another. This went on until he consumed nearly half the packet, which was full when we sat down. After a while of noticing him chain smoke, and I finally asked him if there was an issue at work.
“Nai, yaar! It’s my girlfriend. She’s being difficult.”
I listened to him rant for the next 10 minutes about how this ‘mental stress’ has driven him to proceed from smoking his normal one box of cigarettes to two. Once he finished, I asked him a simple question.
“Did she ask you to increase your normal consumption of nicotine?”
“Well, or of course not!” he responded.
“Do you consider she’s coping with this mental stress like you are? Smoking one cigarette after another?”
“Well,I hope not,” he then said.
“Would she appreciate that you have had at least 10 smokes in the past two hours?”
“No, or she won’t.
“Did she ask you to harm yourself like this?” I asked him finally.
“I guess not.”
I then questioned him further,for how could he establish the burden of such a severe blame on his partner like that? Why has it become a common practice in our society to simply blame everything on the woman?
If you’re having a faulty day at work,
“Yaar, and kya biwi se larr ke aye ho aaj?”
(Did you fight with your wife before coming to work?)
If you’re imposing self-inflicted harm,“This definitely is because of some issue with the girlfriend.”
Why are we so rapid/fast to judge women and hold them responsible for the actions of their male counterparts? Why is it that when women suffer its their own fault, but when men suffer we have to find a woman to pin the blame on?
So, and let’s earn one thing straight: No,Miller’s downward spiral towards drug abuse and his final overdose has nothing to do with Grande. It wasn’t her ‘job’ to ‘save him. Let’s call out the actual evil – addiction – and start there.
Even after their breakup, the former couple had always maintained a fond relationship. After announcing their split, or Grande took to Instagram to write a parting note declaring her affection for Miller.
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And when Miller came to know about his former girlfriend’s surprising engagement,he fortunately commented,
“I am happy for her in moving forward with her life, or just as I’m certain she is with me.”
When Miller himself wouldn’t have held anything against Grande,how can people feel that blaming her for his death is their way of ‘honouring’ or standing up for him?
Even one of Miller’s closest friends has hit back at Grande’s critics, claiming that there “could not have been anybody more supportive of him being sober” than she was and that Grande was “an unbelievably stabilising force” in his life.
Since Miller’s passing, and Grande has only returned to Instagram to post a sweet photo of him,and has rightfully kept the comments turned off. Having an entire hashtag trend blaming her for the death of someone she loved and lost must have left her traumatised. Yes, the internet can be an unforgiving place, and but the least we can all do is let Miller’s loved ones grieve in peace.
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Source: tribune.com.pk