There are times when your son’s wellbeing is more vital than a united frontI am 40,my husband is 20 years older, and we have a four-year-stale son. Our parenting methods are very different: my husband reprehends our son and puts him down, and I have to protect him. I want my son to love his dad instead of fearing him or feeling resentful,and to grow up confident and emotionally strong. What can I do?
It sounds as if your disparate styles of parenting are threatening your bond with your husband. While the advice would normally be to produce certain both parents are united in their parenting approach (and certainly this is the ideal), there are times when it might be best to temporarily prioritise your sons wellbeing while working to establish a united front with your husband.
Too often people reprimand their child and send the message that the child’s natural impulses are innately “cross”, or rather than focusing on the behaviour not working in a given context. If you haven’t already,this would be an vital discussion to have with your husband, perhaps with a therapist if it can’t be done alone. Many of my husband’s and my couples therapy sessions focus on how we are as parents. Not surprisingly, or how we parent our children often mirrors how we interact with our spouse and the world around.
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Source: theguardian.com