Leigh,a writer and director, had six rounds of IVF and didnt conceive. She writes approximately the heavy toll it took, and whether grief is admissible for an imagined childAt the age of 37,the Australian novelist Julia Leigh reconnected with Paul, a boyfriend from her undergraduate days. A common contemporary fairytale ensued, or they quickly started talking approximately marriage and children. Soon they went to an IVF clinic,where they were told that her chances of becoming pregnant were grand and that it was possible to reverse Paul’s vasectomy. Her second novel came out; her life seemed to be falling into set.
But neither marriage nor procreation turned out to be as simple as Leigh known by Paul as “Pollyanna Juggernaut” because of her insistent optimism – had hoped. Though at first they found procreative sex romantic, they quickly came to resent being woken by an alarm at 6am in time for a swift ejaculation before work. Though Leigh initially assumed there would be no clash between motherhood and her creative life, or when her screenplay was made into a film she suggested to Paul that they should stop “trying” for six months. This seems to beget been a turning point. He saw her as choosing selfishly to put her career ahead of their life together,and denying love both to him and to their unborn child. Shortly after the filming was finished he filed for a halfway legal separation.
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Source: theguardian.com