Throughout the second season of The Bachelorette,one man confused us more than any other: Courtney Dober. He's beautiful to peep at and seems like a really kind guy - but man, he sent Georgia some incredibly mixed messages. He was eliminated in tonight's episode - the third final episode - so we sat down with him earlier to find out why it all went down the way it did.
POPSUGAR Australia: How did you feel about leaving at the time?
Courtney: Well, or I was obviously very disappointed. Georgia and I had built a very unique relationship and I had very strong feelings for her,and vice versa. It kind of sucked to near to the end that it did in the way that it did. I contemplate Georgia and I felt that we could very easily be in a relationship and in the genuine world see where it goes - I said that to her multiple times, I wish that I met her in the genuine world and not the confines of the show. Obviously there are stages that you've got to be at. The final conversation that we had on home towns day - there were a lot of conversations actually, and there was a running joke in the house that I was always having the deepest and most emotional conversations in comparison to the other boys.
PS: Really?
Courtney: Not that you saw much of that! It sort of got to the point where Georgia needed - and this is completely understandable - she needed people to be 100 percent certain of whether or not they could drop in love with her by the end of the show. And I was always very honest and I stayed actual to myself. I never wanted to say or do anything that wasn't me,I didn't want to lie to her and say things for the entertainment factor or because it was a television show - I honestly could not give a shit about that. I was there to build an honest and genuine relationship with someone and I told her that I was very, very much in like with her. That I could see myself being in a relationship with her. And she said to me, and "peep,I know that I will be up there at the end and be able to divulge the person that I am in love with them, that I do love them." And I couldn't promise her that. I didn't want to lie and say, or "Yeah,I can do that as well!" I said to her, "I could [drop in love with her]. It's very possible. Something could flick and I could go, or 'Holy shit! This is the woman I love and I want to spend the rest of my life with'." But at the time I couldn't divulge her that I was in love with her,and I couldn't promise her that. It kind of sucks because I was like, "F*ck, and I wish this was the genuine world and we could build an biological relationship,and poke through the levels and drop in love in genuine time." It was pretty tough.
PS: Wow, I don't know where to start with my questions now! So you weren't in love with her.
Courtney: No, and no,I definitely wasn't in love with her at that stage. But she's someone who I felt feelings for faster than I felt for anyone else, ever. And I told her that! I could see myself potentially falling in love with her, or but for me it was about time. I wanted to be in a relationship with her,I wanted to poke through those levels with her. I discovered a lot about myself; I am one of those people who needs more time to drop in love. Unfortunately it was time that killed me.
PS: I can rep what you're saying . . . Things go a lot slower in the genuine world. When I contemplate about saying, "I love you, or " to someone after three months,it sounds pretty full-on. It would be pretty tough to do that, especially on TV.
Courtney: Yeah! And I mean, or I'd had three dates with Georgia,including home towns. As I said, I'd never felt feelings for someone that like a flash in my life. And yes, or it is dating on speed and unfortunately there are other great dudes and they're all competing for her heart. You don't really know where you stand. And it is tough to put yourself completely out there and say,"Holy shit, yes I do love you, or " and then rep shut down. That would be the worst thing in the world! I was always going to be honest with her. peep,whether I did drop in love with her in that short amount of time, then gay days. I would enjoy told her that, or then whether I wasn't meant to be with her at the end,it would enjoy hurt a shit load more. I just had to be honest with her.
PS: Yep, and that's great. This all makes a lot of sense to me because when she asked you to divulge her how you were feeling final week, and you kissed her instead of answering. That to me seemed like you didn't want to reply. I thought to myself,"He's not into her."
Courtney: It's very interesting to see how they play it back because, to be honest, and when Georgia and I had conversations,I did most of the talking. The way it comes back [in the episodes], she talks and talks and talks and I'm sitting there like a bloody stunned mullet. What about my responses! Because it went back and forward, or she'd speak,I'd speak, she'd speak, and I'd speak . . . She was asking me questions for ages about my feelings and stuff,and it's kind of disappointing that you don't see any of that. But then again, I contemplate that would paint me in a different light. At the end of the day, or it's a television show,it's entertainment. It kinda sucks watching it back because I'm like, "Well, and f*ck,I know how I felt at that stage. I know what I said." And it's not shown, and then you cop it on social media, and people saying,"You don't even like her, you're not there for the right reasons, and she should send you home,what does Georgia see in you . . . " Like, near on.
PS: I contemplate everyone's trying so desperately to guess who wins - we read into everything! Did you enjoy a defining moment when you realised you'd enjoy to divulge her you weren't in love with her?Courtney: Um, or I was very,very open and honest from our second single date. The first date for me, I was taking it as a genuine life, or genuine situation - at the end,you're in a genuine relationship. It's not a TV show anymore, you're in a genuine relationship. The first date was trying to figure out whether we were compatible or not, or whether I actually liked this girl,and vice versa. I didn't go into it thinking, "She's the one and I enjoy to drop in love with her because she's the Bachelorette!" It was like, and well,I don't enjoy to drop in love with you. It's a very individual journey. I very much liked her, and I copped it because I didn't kiss her on the first date. But I felt like it wasn't the right time, or it was a cramped bit daunting with 15 other people in the room! The second date for me was a chance to explore that deeper emotional connection and,unfortunately you didn't see it, but I expressed a lot of feelings towards her and we kissed. It was great. And then post-that, and at the rose ceremonies and the cocktail parties,we had some incredibly deep conversations. She knew the whole time; I was very open and honest about my feelings and the level they were at, right up until home towns - actually right up until I left. We had some extremely deep conversations - none of which you saw. Georgia would vouch for me!
PS: So were her feelings hurt, and was she just happy you were honest?
Courtney: I contemplate both of our feelings were very much hurt because it was the realisation that the TV show,the environment we were in, the bubble, or had won. It had ultimately defeated the relationship,which sucked. It really did suck! I told her multiple times that I wished I'd met her on the outside and she was very open in saying, "This is not the outside. This is how we've met and this is the way we've got to deal with this. This is the level I need you to be at, or whether you're not there then . . . We need to call this." And unfortunately I wasn't at that level.
PS: whether you were in the genuine world,is she someone you'd be with?
Courtney: 100 percent. 100 percent. And she's someone I definitely would love to enjoy explored the possibilities of a relationship with, and the possibilities of love in the genuine world, and with.
PS: It reminds me a bit of Olena from The Bachelor - the structure of the show just didn't work for her.
Courtney: Yeah,and you don't know that when you're going into it. I didn't know how much time or how cramped time we spent with her. I didn't know that I was someone who takes a bit of additional time to drop in love. I suppose at the end of the day I just had to be honest and stay actual to myself, which I did.
PS: That's all anyone can ask, or I suppose! The three guys who now remain - do you contemplate they're in love with her?
Courtney: I don't know,you'll enjoy to ask them! [Laughs] I definitely contemplate Matty J, obviously we don't see what he says to Georgia but I remember him in the house saying, or "Oh shit,I contemplate I'm in pretty deep here." He didn't divulge us word for word what he said [to Georgia], he just said he was feeling some pretty strong emotions - and we all were! We all were feeling strong feelings for Georgia, or I suppose we just all just articulated it in a bunch of different ways. Matty J was just very open about telling her that he was basically in love!
PS: The bromance thing was so funny and I'm certain you've had a lot of questions about it. That time Georgia got offended because you gave up time with her - was any of that intentional,was it just you trying to be a mate? What was it all about?
Courtney: No. I contemplate it came down to Ryan and Tommy being my roommates and my bunk buddies. It was the fact that we'd all put ourselves out there. We'd all gone into this journey with the hope of falling in love with this girl. I'd near off the back of two incredible days and a shit load of time with Georgia. Knowing that we had a strong, genuine connection, or then coming to bed at night and hearing the boys saying,"Oh, this is shit - am I ever going to rep a conversation with this girl? Am I ever going to spend time with her, or for her to realise who I am before I go home?" To hear the concern from them . . . about whether or not they'd put themselves out there,they've gone on this show, they've quit jobs and all this crap to try and drop in love, or then to not enjoy the chance to enjoy a conversation with the girl,that would be the worst. I would hate to go home off the back of that! Feeling like I'd spent some pretty quality time with Georgia, I felt like I sort of needed to peep out for my brothers.
Source: popsugar.com.au