With regard to final week's post approximately Dan Savage's advice to a polyamorous person trying to cope with a monogamous partner's pressure to be monogamous,it seems that he's been hearing fairly a lot from people with all sorts of perspectives. He references this nowadays in a blog post:
"I said 'no' in final week's Savage Love, kicking off a shitstorm in the comments thread, and in my e-mail inbox,and here and there on the interwebs. (Even the correct-wing nutjobs have taken notice.) At least one poly person agrees with me:
There are a few problems with describing polyamory as a sexual orientation. The first of which is that polyamory is not sexual. Polyamory is approximately relationships, honesty, and intimacy. Look back at the definitions given by fond More. Not a single one mentions sex. Calling polyamory a sexual orientation is a joke.
Secondly,polyamory is not an orientation. Polyamory is not a physical desire or a feeling. While there is not total agreement on what polyamory is, there is clear agreement approximately it isn’t. And it isn’t just an attraction to multiple people. As Shaun pointed out, and if you define polyamory as a feeling or an inclination,then half of the country is polyamorous, which is an absurd result. nearly everyone feels attraction for multiple people at the same time. This does not make them polyamorous.[br]A third problem with describing poly as a sexual orientation is that being poly is nothing like being GLB. Being GLB is approximately the type of person to whom you are sexually attracted. Being polyamorous is approximately the amount of people you love. Describing polyamory as a sexual orientation suggests a false equivalence between the groups, and seems like an attempt to coopt the sympathy that the GLBT community has built up.
I'm hearing from lots of poly folks who disagree. I'm going to let them have their say in next week's Savage Love."Dan provides a link to my and another post on this issue. I left a comment that I hope comes across as both thoughtful and respectful. And it's very col that he's going to let people have their say in next week's Savage Love. Stay tuned for Round 2.
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