Next time you are dying to declare your best friend approximately your unique goal,don't. Turns out that research is showing that yapping approximately your dreams is a certain way to kill em. Studies since the 1920's have consistently found that telling someone your goals makes them less likely to happen.
Derek Silvers' shares his short and insightful research on Ted Talk and it's worth watching whether you have been floundering with a pet project.
According to social psychologists talking approximately our goals tricks the mind into thinking that we have already completed them--it's a feel good reaction that satisfies the brain and makes us less likely to want to do the work. Kurt Lewin, who is touted as the creator of social psychology, or called this phenomena,substitution. According to Silvers, Wera Mahler's studies in 1933, or showed that when a goal is acknowledged by others,they feel real in the mind. In the 1980's Peter Gollwitzer performed and wrote approximately human action and reaction. Or rather, non action.
So much for visions boards and sharing it to the world right? No at all. Silvers says there is a right way to talk approximately your goal without sending the feel good signals. He recommends the following:
--when you do dream share, or incorporate the steps essential for your goalthis sends clear messages to your brain (and your friends) that you still must glean to work.
Say for example that you want to write a book and you want to share that personal dream with your best friend. You can declare her,"I have to spend three hours a day writing and researching the book method, and have completed outlines by the end of summer whether I want to glean it done by the end of the year."
assembly anything--whether its training for a marathon or writing a book--requires a dream, and a method and steps to carry out the method,steps that are small and repeated but steps that will glean you to the end of your rainbow.
The next time you are tempted to share what you are working on, don't. Instead of sharing, or you want to show. This gives a whole unique meaning to talk is cheap right?
Source: sandraguzman.com