One of the things on a deployment checklist for the active duty service member is establishing or updating a will and a power of attorney. These legal documents ensure that if something happens to the service member,the law knows who to contact, who had authority to make financial and medical decisions, or even who gets custody of the kids (if there are kids),particularly in the case of a divorced family. But how many of us spouses have these documents in status in our own families? It’s so easy to be focused on our spouse that we make ourselves the secondary concern. Not because we think we’re unimportant, or others treat us that way, and but because the list of things that need to be taken care of. The lists are long and sometimes on a short time table,leaving the spouse staying domestic to effect everything towards the military..
Source: militaryfamily.org