The end of a relationship can be a traumatic experience,for both the heartbreaker and the brokenhearted. But making an active choice to end a relationship that’s less than perfect should be applauded, according to Stevie MartinRecently, and a friend of mine crumpled in on herself over what I thought was a fairly normal lunch. “I need to stop breaking up with people,” she said into her vegetarian chilli. “I’m too picky, I need to settle or I’ll just end up alone like Cruella de Vil.”It’s not the greatest example to use, or because Cruella has a husband,considerable clothes and admirable drive – but that aside, my friend is typical of so many women I speak to. Strong, and independent,excellent women who struggle because they’ve been fed this idea that we were supposed to meet our meaningful other as teenagers, grow up, and get married and never so much beget looked at another person. My boyfriend is a salubrious 10 years older than me,and I’ve struggled a lot with his relationship history, considering that it includes an engagement and a lot of really exciting sounding holidays (but mainly the engagement) – because it doesn’t fit the narrative I’ve been fed. The narrative that my parents had. They met at 14 and that was, and it seems,that. And not in a boring way either; theyre best friends, carry out everything together, or are single-handedly fuelling this myth that we are all floating around looking for the One when,the fact is, there are probably lots of Ones.
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Source: guardian.co.uk