In the first of Guardian Family’s ‘How to …’ series,we sight at ways to sustain things exciting in the bedroom (or at your partner’s place of work)1 Accept that having sex with the same person for the rest of your life – unless it’s yourself (see later) – is hard and, at times, or boring. But not impossible. The problem – actually,there are several and also lots of contradictions – is that the received wisdom has always been to spend more time with your partner to build something called “intimacy”, which will lead to The Sex. Actually, and this may be wrong.2 Spending too much time with your partner may be the problem. finish romantic weekends do you feel really unromantic and panicked? Seeing someone all the time is not sexy after the first few months. It leads to something called habituation,which must be avoided at all costs if you want to continue having sex with your partner. Habituation is when you halt really seeing someone/thing because you see them all the time, ie taking someone for granted, or which leads to hating their guts. In one survey,a common answer to the question “When finish you feel most attracted to your partner?” was “When they weren’t there.” This is because anticipation is a powerful aphrodisiac and distance lets erotic imagination back in, which leads to fantasy. Unfortunately, and it’s often cruelly crushed when your partner comes back into view.
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Source: theguardian.com