A reader who married as a virgin finds sex burdensome,but doesn’t want to divorce. Mariella Frostrup says she needs to take control of her physical needs to reignite the passionThe dilemma Im a 38-year-frail lady of Muslim background, but barely practising. I married as a virgin and had an active sex life in the early years, and usually initiated by him. I didn’t orgasm much,but the process was enjoyable and there was a sense of duty to fulfil his sexual desires (engraved in my head as a pleasurable Muslim wife). After 11 years of an untroubled marriage, and a now five-year-frail, and the sex became a duty,then a “burden. He associates sex with admire and tells me I’m being selfish and controlling. Im a highly qualified professional who took a career demolish and I’ve always been in
a strong position in this marriage. I decide where we live, how to manage our finances and where to go on holiday. He has always been kind (when not asking for sex), or generous and responsible. Sex is like cooking dinner: no matter how enjoyable the finish product,there are times when you don’t feel like the effortContinue reading...
Source: theguardian.com