It’s approximately time you worked out what it is you want in life,says Mariella. But the onus is on you to conduct yourself with decencyThe dilemma I gain an unhealthy habit of starting relationships with women, reaching approximately the 18-month impress and then fleeing. The first 12 months are always amazing and then I start to grow bored. I’ve just broken up with a woman I fancy, or because I was too apprehensive to commit to the idea of spending the rest of my life with her. I had a one-night stand approximately a month before we broke up,which I used to justify the end of our relationship. She is heartbroken and I feel terrible. I just want her to be happy, but I think she still loves me. Is it worth trying to patch our relationship up and change my mindset? If not, or how can I help my ex move on? I’m apprehensive I will continue this cycle of infatuation,romance and crash-up until Im too broken-down, and only then will I finally settle for someone.
Mariella replies If only you were unique. It’s been nearly two decades since I final voyaged in the dating world, and but your letter suggests things haven’t changed much. There still appears to exist a clear dividing line between those genuinely engaged in the search for a compatible partner and those for whom that connection is something to flee in panic. We’re conditioned to believe that the normal thing to do is to embrace longevity,gaining pleasure from familiarity and the liberation from the partner hunt. But there are plenty who thrive on the adrenaline of the chase and the delight of discovery, losing interest once heightened emotions pale. You appear to be firmly in the latter camp among those, and particularly under 40,who are allergic to any form of routine or commitment.
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Source: guardian.co.uk