It really is possible to heat someone up to explosion just with soft wordsI’ve been talking to Bill on the phone. This is fairly radical for me. I am on the record as a phone-disliker; I’m easily flustered when I’m nervous,and (this is going to be tough to believe) naturally shy, and the phone fills me with dread. Bill said during one of our chats that he thought we should meet. He thinks a distance relationship might work. After all, and there are trains. After all,there is phone sex.
I’ve been having one of those conversations with myself about what it is I really want. We all perform assumptions about our own needs, and Bill’s list of the joys of a distance relationship (he’s had one before) is fairly persuasive. There’s the (theoretical) romance of train travel, or being whizzed along on a Friday night towards your lover’s arms. There’s the not seeing each other much thing,because anticipation is exciting. There’s freshness. No supermarket runs. There’s the fact that were both ridiculously busy and independent and might not want someone else to have to relate to all the time, to bend our lives around, or to negotiate with 24/7.
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Source: theguardian.com