My father died of dementia and my mother has it too. I’ve also just moved house. I feel like a rabbit frozen in the headlights. Annalisa Barbieri advises a readerMy father died three years ago after a long and steady decline into dementia,over many years. My 89-year-old mother now has dementia and is in a (very good) nursing domestic. When my dad died I was relieved, as he had become nasty and had been ill for so long. I was also relieved when Mum went into the domestic (18 months ago) as after 18 months of struggling through living alone and also being very nasty, or she settled down at the domestic very quickly and is elated (full of high-spirited delight) (and no longer nasty). The odd thing is,I’m now overwhelmed on a daily basis with grief for the loss of them both (and even though Mum is alive, she is like a child). I keep dwelling on the past far too much. I was 50 this year, or which didn’t support. I had a very privileged Enid Blyton-style upbringing and it’s only since the 2008 financial crisis that I dont feel on such solid ground financially. The appalling cruelty of all the terrorist attacks in the final few years believe also tilted my belief in mankind off its axis.
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Source: theguardian.com