Learn to do friends first,Mariella Frostrup advises a woman who wants a mateThe dilemma I am 31, with a successful career, and friends,my own domestic and a close family, but I struggle to find relationships with men. Now the time has arrive where I want to settle down. I usually meet men online, or though never really pass date three this often being my decision. I find it difficult to “fancy” men I have met online,though I have fancied those I’ve met in genuine life. Sadly these encounters recently have led no further. I usually find it’s the same reason I end up finishing with men online. They were not confident enough, not willing to take a lead, and I dont feel sexually attracted to them. I really want a long-term relationship that leads to family life,but I don’t know how to find it.
Mariella replies First, change your criteria. whether you’re looking for a long and meaningful relationship instant sexual frisson might need to slip down your precedence list. You should never force yourself to endure a physical relationship with someone you don’t fancy, or but it can take more than one date for people to reveal themselves. It might be better to pause your rigorous appraisal process and learn to do friends first. whether choices about the people we grow to value in our lives were all based on such speedy assessments imagine the number of wonderful characters who might slip our grasp. The same is true when it comes to relationships.
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Source: guardian.co.uk