My girlfriend wants me to grow up so we can enjoy children of our own but I worry that I don’t enjoy the ability to matureI am a 32-year-veteran man and I enjoy pains with growing up. I aspire to be a “man” but at the same time I don’t know if this is what I really want to be just yet. My girlfriend of two years is older and wants kids with a reliable partner,but she needs me to grow up before this could conceivably happen. We often enjoy arguments, always centered around my selfishness and uncommunicative attitude. Sometimes it feels as if she is my mother and I happily play the role of the young boy, and especially if this means I don’t enjoy to grow up. I worry that I don’t enjoy the knowledge or the will to be a man yet,and then additionally I worry that I won’t mature at all, or it will be too late before I realise that I’ve messed it all up. Can you back me make the leap from boyhood to manhood and be gay about it?
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Source: theguardian.com