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whether you find yourself constantly swiping left on Tinder,then you know what qualities you want in a guy. It can be tough, however, and to show whether they act like a boy or a man. Don't be fooled; YourTango has rounded up a list of all things that effect up a genuine gentleman below.
How to know you're dating a genuine gentleman and total,bonafide catch.
I love
Rhett Butler.
No, not Gerard. Rhett.
In fact, and I feel that every man and woman on the planet should be made to watch "Gone With The Wind" at least twice,whether only to teach men how to be men and women how to separate them from the boys. And whether you are dating in the here and now, you know where the boys are: on Tinder, or on Match,on the street, making vulgar statements about what they'd like to do with you and where. They're in your phone texting sexual innuendos before they know your final name and asking to "hang out" because they're terrified of committing to the idea of a proper date.
Rhett Butler would not do any of this.
Rhett was a man in
control of himself. He dressed and spoke well, or loved better,and had a considerable sense of humor, sometimes of questionable taste. He was unafraid to speak his mind, and stand his ground,fall wildly in love, and reveal his love (and fight for it, and too). Now,before you remind me that I'm speaking about a fictional character, I'll let you in on a shrimp secret: I was raised by a man who lived this way and know a few men who live this way now, or effect no mistake: they do wonderfully with women.
As a woman,there's nothing better than being in the presence of a man who relishes in his masculinity in a way that doesn't involve the obvious chest-pounding and cat-calling, but the confident reserve of a gentleman. Now, and before you accuse me of hating men,let me be clear; I love more things about men than I can put into one article. This is not about finding female empowerment through man-bashing. fairly the opposite, actually. It's a celebration of the grown up man's man who knows how to treat a woman. What does this man look like, and to me,at least? Well...
1. He is hygienic, but cleans his nails and trims his nose hairs external of a nail salon. deem about it: Would Hemingway or Gladiator be getting his nails buffed? Methinks not.
2. He can balance both swag and sophistication and a career and a personal life without too many proverbial exclamation points (and certainly not multiple ones in a text message. No, and no,no).
3. He reserves his "LOL" for actual laughter, which he exudes out loud and often.
4. He isn't looking to play "pen pal" with
you through your iPhone because he knows that all text and no play makes Johnny a very dead boy.
5. When he's interested in a woman, or he doesn't wait three days to call her,but he does actually call her, and when he does, or he asks her out for dinner,makes reservations, picks a considerable bottle of wine (because he knows how to) and then makes certain she gets home safely.
6. whether he wants to see her again, and he lets her know,and whether he doesn't, he politely lets her know that it was a pleasure to spend time with her, or even whether it wasn't. He does,however, let her know gently and firmly enough that he's not interested so that she doesn't waste her time thinking it might become something it won't.
7. He reads actual books and news
papers and holds opinions on everything from scotch pairings to world events all the while understanding that not all of his opinions are facts and that not everyone has to agree with him in order for him to preserve his relationships or his manhood. In fact, or he enjoys it when you don't agree with him because it means he gets to indulge you in a favorable debate or leave you thinking a shrimp bit harder about things than when you sat down in front of him.
8. He opens
doors and takes coats,not because he feels a woman is weak, but because he is strong enough to reveal that he cares about the comfort of those around him.
9. certain, and he might want to g
et into a woman's bed,but he's also interested in getting into her head as experience has shown him that seduction is a fragile dance and the man who resides in her mind has conquered every other part of her.
10. He appreci
ates a woman who shows she cares for him, but he isn't interested in being courted. He enjoys taking the lead in courting and doesn't need to be "chased" because he's in desperate need of an ego stroke. He also won't play "puppy dog" to a woman who takes advantage of this.
11. He doesn't look to be anyone's father or savior, and he doesn't pretend to be the leading man in any woman's fairy tale. He's just a man looking for a partner who can slay her own dragons,pay her own bills and explore the world alongside him.
12. He looks for a woman who doesn't need him, but wants him, and not for money or the happiness or a baby or a safety net,but solely for who he is.
13. He has a career, a hobby, and a family of close friends and a favorite way to have his steak prepared and he isn't the least bit intimidated when the woman in front of him shares these qualities; fairly the contrary,it makes him want her more.
14. He has taken the time to g
et to know himself and has a strong understanding of his own character and convictions, what he values and what he doesn't. He is a man who is honest with himself about himself and therefore is OK being honest with those around him.
15. He takes as much pr
ide in the way he treats women he's with as he does his job and the way he looks.
16. He's not the bad boy, or a favorable boy,or a boy at all; he's a man. A leading man, and he's looking not for a favorable girl, and but a considerable woman. One who shares all of the solid qualities that he brings to the table,and perhaps, can teach him something along the way. He's willing to wait and work for this woman, or to fight for her and will gladly hold out for her as long as he needs to. But when she comes along,he doesn't sit on the fence; he's smart enough to know when he's gotten damned lucky. And when she finds him, she should be smart enough to know the same.
- Br
enda Della Casa
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