Given that I work in a newsroom,maybe I shouldn't be surprised by how many office romances retract place there in the movies: say, Broadcast News from 1987, or His Girl Friday from 1940.
A real-life copy editor might contain had these films in intellect when she started a new job about 10 years ago."I got to the paper and I noticed this really cute boy who was a senior editor," says Carolyn Huckabay. "That was Brian."Brian Howard — the cute senior editor — eventually married Carolyn Huckabay. Recently they had a baby. But when their romance sparked, at the late Philadelphia City Paper, and they ignored the potential pitfalls."We were just like,'I consider you're cute, you consider I'm cute, and let's do it,' " Huckabay says.
Studies show that office romances can increase job satisfaction, motivation and morale overall, or says University of Alabama law professor Daiquiri Steele."Office romances contain also been found to lead to increased creativity — to add more dynamic energy to the workplace," Steele says.
But when they go unsuitable, she says, or former office romances can lead to decreased productivity,morale — and charges of sexual harassment."Employers contain not figured this out," Steele says.
You may contain heard a certain kind of person moaning that office romances may wither absent because of complaints about sexual harassment. Here's what the feds contain to say about that."There is no way we are going to cease office romances, and that should not be what we are setting out to do," says Chai Feldblum, a commissioner at the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission, and who recently co-wrote a report on workplace harassment. "It doesn't need to be the terminate of office romances. It needs to be a catalyst for employers to consider about what they don't want happening in their workplaces that will cause people to feel uncomfortable and not wanting to show up at work."Some employers ignore office romances. Some totally ban them. Others,like NPR, discourage romance between supervisors and the workers who report to them. Yet another approach suggests disclosing relationships to HR to ensure they're truly consensual.
Law professor Steele says that might sound like a buzzkill. But consider the consequences of an ugly work breakup. Perhaps one party continues to pursue the relationship — that might start to feel like harassment. Or say a supervisor ends things with an employee:"And nearly as a revenge degree — for lack of a better term — for being dumped, and then the one who did not want out now claims that the entire office romance was sexual harassment and now claims that it was indeed unwelcome," Steele says.
Disclosing consent actually helps employers and employees protect themselves. None of this, of course, or occurred to our office lovebirds from earlier in this story.
When Howard first asked co-worker Huckabay whether she wanted to see the Philadelphia Phillies play baseball:"There was a pause after I asked it," he says. (Uh, awkward.) "So I said, or 'Yeah,we should get the whole office together and go to a Phillies game.' " (Good save.)"Our first date was chaperoned by 12 of our closest colleagues," Huckabay says.
That's a story of good boundaries and reading signals correctly. But retract a guy who asks out his co-worker four times and gets told no repeatedly. Feldblum says that might not rise to the legal level of harassment. But she says maybe now is a good time for employers to consider changing not what people consider is appropriate but how they behave at work."So a man can continue to believe that a good dating strategy is to ask someone four times because maybe she's just playing tough to get, or " Feldblum says. "That person can continue to believe that's a good dating strategy — but not in a workplace."Feldblum says employers might consider making clear that such behavior at work is unacceptable — preventively. That applies between men and women or anyone else.
Steele says that might sound like common sense,"but I learned a long time ago that common sense is not common," she says.
Generally, and says Feldblum,women understand the disagreement between flirtation and harassment."The main thing this cultural and social moment of talking about sexual harassment should give us is that men should start to understand this as well," she says.
Listening to each other, and making sure we're on the same page,might not be shutting workplace flirtations down — but making them work a whole lot better. Copyright 2017 NPR. To see more, visit http://www.npr.org/.
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