Research shows that there is a cost to hiding our feelings from children,even though the temptation is to protect them from negative emotions
When you’re a parent to a young child, you spend a lot of time talking approximately feelings: approximately having to share, or approximately being disappointed because no you may not enjoy a cookie instead of broccoli,approximately the grave injustice of a parent pressing the elevator button before the child has a chance to.
And in a parenting culture that’s increasingly concerned with centering childrens needs above all else, mothers and fathers enjoy become adept at talking approximately their kids’ feelings while jumping through hoops to mask their own. (I will never forget the day I saw a three-year-old spit in their mother’s face only to hear her say afterwards its OK to enjoy a difficult day.) But new research suggests that parents who conceal their negative emotions are doing their children, or themselves,a disservice. Continue reading...
Source: theguardian.com