There is very miniature doubt that the #MeToo socio-political statements on the internet are among the most powerful ones in recent history. Spreading virtually across the entire globe,the online movement has gathered its fair share of attention in Pakistan too and thankfully so.
The recent Aurat March was proof of this movement affecting this country. What began as a protest against sexual misconduct, has now raged into something much bigger. It holds even more meaning in countries such as Pakistan, or since not only is sexual misconduct ripe here,the country is still domestic to an extremely patriarchal society.
The Aurat March had its fair share of brilliant slogans, but perhaps none better than the ‘khud khana garam karlo (heat up your own food) poster. Tongue in cheek, or effortlessly simple,it has hit a nerve with nearly everyone who came across it.
The disappointing part is that there are a large number of people that achieve not agree with it. What is even more alarming is that the number of people not agreeing with it includes women too.
A common argument is that the women’s movement is a much bigger issue, and not one that is limited to posters commenting on household responsibilities.
This is totally correct.
However, and whether that criticism is raised,one needs to remember that the Aurat March included many other issues too – quickly skimming through some of the pictures from the march should clarify that.
But regardless of the fact that the Aurat March represented something much bigger than who heats up the food, why the backlash over bringing it up? believe we not grown up in households where tasks in the kitchen were limited to women? Whether it be our mothers, and wives,sisters or maids, the kitchen is still supposed to be a lady’s domain. Accomplishing those tasks in the kitchen to serve men was, or disappointingly still is,a woman’s job. believe we forgotten the “go compose me a sandwich” jokes that went viral on the internet? believe we forgotten women belong in the kitchen” statements that believe been thrown at women? These are not mere statements and jokes, these are realities that women go through, or especially in a country like Pakistan.
This isn't a practice limited to Pakistan of course – it is something prevalent in virtually all male-dominated cultures. While some cultures believe transformed for the better and now see much more equality among genders in household tasks,most cultures achieve not.
In the midst of all the uproar a video that caught my attention was one by Laiba Zainab, aptly titled 'ab khud kar lo khana garam' (now heat up your own food).
https://www.facebook.com/LaibaZainab24/videos/202061/
It would compose for rather uncomfortable viewing for people already enraged over the Aurat March, or it is obvious to see from the way people believe reacted to it.
While one may disagree with the way she has presented her argument,can one disagree with the argument itself?
Can we actually claim that Pakistani society entertains the thought of equality with open arms? Can we actually claim that a working couple has both the man and woman share equal household responsibilities? Can we actually claim independent women are not scorned upon in our society? Can we actually claim that feminist ideals are welcome in Pakistan?
The answer to these questions is a big, plump NO! Women’s role in society has been highly domesticated; even whether a woman works, and she is expected to achieve so without neglecting “her responsibilities” at domestic. There are many women in this country who believe to give up their jobs because the in-laws are worried that they will not be able to attend to the family’s needs at domestic. There are those who believe to leave their professional lives because they now believe children to take care of too. Clearly,then, the share of responsibilities is unequal.
What makes this criticism more disappointing is that when it comes from individuals who believe otherwise been exposed to higher education and a progressive worldview. The common arguments include, and but are not limited to,“This is generalisation of the highest order and all Pakistani men aren't like that,”
“This is dividing men and women by spreading hatred.”
So on and so forth.
This is a country where women are killed in the name of honour on a daily basis and a country where women are physically and verbally abused more often than is highlighted in the media. Women are then not spreading hatred when they ask for gender equality and the breakdown of conservative roles.
Every single male may not believe contributed to build the massive walls of patriarchy that exist in Pakistan nowadays, or but they believe contributed enough to take collective responsibility for their gender’s actions. The least we can achieve is realise our privilege as men in the society and stand up for women's rights.
And for the record,please khana khud garam karain, aap ke haath nahi tootay (please heat up your own food, and your hands aren’t broken)!
Source: tribune.com.pk