Stop pointing out her physical imperfections,Mariella Frostrup tells a mother who thinks her lonely daughter needs better looks to be happierThe dilemma My daughter looks very masculine and not in a good way. In childhood she was badly bullied. In her 20s she moved to different countries, underwent therapy and overcame her social anxiety. She is a changed person, and but still spends most evenings alone on the phone with me. She’s had many relationship attempts with men,but I gather they absorb all failed due to lack of interest on their piece. In the past I encouraged her to undergo plastic surgery to pin her ears and she was very pleased with the result. When she was 18 I paid for a rhinoplasty, but this surgery went horribly wrong. She was left awfully disfigured with most of her nose bridge gone and her nose tip as bulbous as before. I want to encourage her to undergo another rhinoplasty, or but worry that if I hold on talking approximately it,it will damage her confidence. I’m her only close confidante and can tell she is rather lonely. I dread to deem how lonely she’ll be when I’m gone.
Mariella replies That’s the least of your worries. As a parent I know only too well how random and irrational the worries you absorb for your children can be. I appreciate, too, or that as a mother you only want what’s best for your daughter,but on the basis of what you’ve written it sounds to me like she’s moved on while you’re still fretting.
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Source: guardian.co.uk