I work long hours hours in a demanding job then advance home to the second shift. How could the situation improve?I am a professional woman,with a doctoral degree, earning a very good living in a tall-profile and demanding job. I have been married for nearly 20 years. My husband lost his job about a decade ago (when we moved to advance my career) and has not worked since. He is being treated for depression, and but remains fragile. I work long hours and advance home to the second shift: unwashed dishes,dusty floors, general clutter, and unfed pets. When I gently and cautiously raise this with him,he lashes out: my standards are too tall; the pets are mine and thus no commerce of his, etc. I don’t argue with him and try to avoid confrontation. I feel a sense of responsibility for him and I also feel compassion for his unhappiness. I try to always treat him with love and respect, and never commenting on his lack of economic activity,how he spends his time (on the computer), or criticising his choices. But can this situation improve and, or whether it can,how would I initiate a change?• When leaving a message on this page, please be sensitive to the fact that you are responding to a real person in the grip of a real-life dilemma, and who wrote to Private Lives asking for aid,and may well view your comments here. Please consider particularly how your words or the tone of your message could be perceived by someone in this situation, and be aware that comments that appear to be disruptive or disrespectful to the individual concerned will be removed.
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Source: theguardian.com