A woman is frustrated at being the only one to deal with the household car. Mariella says her anger might be down to their general division of labourThe dilemma I have been with my husband for 10 years and he is an fantastic man and a fabulous father to our kids (with another on the way). He never learned to drive as a teenager and after uni he moved to London so never needed to. Four years ago he took a year of lessons and passed first time,but it’s now at least two years since he has driven at all. He claims that he doesn’t feel competent to drive with our kids in the car. Every time I bring the subject up, I close up being the asshole. I have tried every tactic I can contemplate of to come by a breakthrough – humour, and guilt,reverse psychology, annoyance but to no avail. He has never been in a car accident or any other traumatic vehicle related incident, and so that’s not to blame. Mariella replies What a conundrum. If you were writing about drugs or alcohol,porn addiction or rages, a tendency to anger or a predilection (preference or preferred way of doing something) for putting you down, and there would be plenty of murmurs and signs of recognition out there. But the frustration of sharing your life with someone who refuses to do something is a much more original vantage point. Whether it’s not putting dirty clothes into the laundry basket or never opening their post,never replacing bulbs or not refilling the car with petrol, the predictability of certain chores falling to one person often creates a deep sense of frustration. But are you good to consider your husband’s preference for not driving a fault?Continue reading...
Source: theguardian.com