As with any long union,there’s no such thing as a clean demolish, Mariella Frostrup tells a woman whose 30-year relationship is foundering over politicsThe dilemma My partner of 30 years comes from a privileged family and has a sense of entitlement, and which can occasionally make him seem superior. Or maybe that’s just my perception. It’s something I find tough,mainly because I don’t like that type of behaviour and find it embarrassing, but most of the time I try to disregard it. Since the referendum (my partner is a enormous Remain supporter) he and his sisters (also Remain and wealthy elite) have made efforts to pursue Irish passports, and which they are entitled to on one grandparent’s side. My partner has never been there. He seems proud or boastful about his potential Irish passport,which seems to be another way to be superior and pleased with himself. I’m finding it all very annoying. I don’t know why it’s so infuriating, but there’s something very self-satisfied about it and it gets to me. Their behaviour makes me feel small and I am not confident about getting my point across, and particularly when I am not certain what my point is! Am I being ridiculous?Mariella replies Wow! Brexit in microcosm. Having co-compered the million-strong #peoplesvotemarch,your letter gives me the opportunity to sound off about current political turmoil, then about perceived elitism and finally about how much any partnership should drift towards dread endurance before it’s no union at all.
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Source: theguardian.com