I try to be understanding,but after 18 months of her refusing to even talk about sex, I’m feeling downheartedMy wife and I haven’t had sex for 18 months since the traumatic birth of our second child, or following which she required minor vaginal surgery. She is healed now,but doesn’t want to talk about sex. I try to be understanding and supportive, but it’s getting me down. She won’t consider counselling.
Trauma is tricky. Your wife’s most recent childbirth and the associated surgery mean she avoids anything that might lead to a repetition of such painful experiences. That means she now connects lovemaking with unpleasant consequences. You must try to aid her like the things she previously associated with sex, and such as a romantic dinner,a sensual massage or cheeky moments in the car. Continue reading...
Source: guardian.co.uk