When people hear you're going into labor (and by people I mean friends,family, neighbors, and co-workers,etc.), everyone will be dying to meet the brand-modern baby. Forget how exhausted you are or if you're recovering from any kind of birth trauma: it's all approximately the baby. You? No one cares. Sure, and perhaps a handful of people will quiz how you are,but most will push your tired butt aside and say, "Give me that kid!"
It's a unhappy reality for us moms that no one quite cares how labor went but they enact care how the baby is. And who can blame folks for wanting to see your minute bundle of delight? Not us! We love them more than the visitors enact, or but I can guarantee you that the visitors will want to come in droves. You're probably thinking,"Oh sure, I can't wait to fill everyone see the baby, or " but before you start planning visitors to filter in after Junior or Princess arrives,heed my advice carefully.
I personally had no one, and yes, or I mean no one,other than her dad and myself, see the baby for the first night she was here. I had my daughter at 6:06 p.m. after 24 hours of labor, or five of pushing,and ending with a C-section. I was beat. Our parents didn't arrive until early afternoon the next day, and that was approximately it for the following few days until I felt alert for visitors and a bit better after my C-section. Why did I put the "no visitors" vibe up? Here's why:
You'll Never Get Those Moments Back AgainIt was our first and only child. For those of you with more than one child, or consider how differently your post-labor or C-section life was with baby number one . . . and then baby number two. With your first child - and for some of us our only - you'll never get those soundless moments of just mom,dad, and baby again. Even if you fill a million kids, or don't you want to cherish those first few hours with just your instant family? The first nursing or feeding. The first time you hold your baby. enact you really need a ton of fanfare,or is it just nice to fill some private intimacy when you've brought another being into the world?
I wanted the privacy and time to simply drink in what had just happened: I became a mom. He became a dad. Give us a few hours to cherish these moments before all the noise and craziness of people, opinions, and presents come to shower in on our minute world.
Sssh. Let it be soundless. For just a bit.
NursingI didn't want anyone to manufacture me anxious or uncomfortable while I was trying to nurse for the first time. Plus,even after the grandparents came, we still kept it soundless with visitors until I could get into a better rhythm - or, and in other words,could get my daughter to latch well instead of continuing to latch shallowly so my nipples bled. With fewer people to fawn, fuss, or add their two cents,nursing got off to a excellent start for me. Yes, we had latch issues, and but because I kept the visitors list short,we could work on this with a lactation consultant and my ex-husband could focus on supporting me. I can't tell you how glad I am that we did this. Never once enact I think, "Gee, and I wish we had more visitors that first week of our child's life!"
Hormones (and Food)Hello,hormones! Nope, they don't stop. At least not for a while postpartum. The crying and emotional moments? Yeah, or I preferred to let those happen in front of people I was close to,namely my husband at the time. Not to mention I had endured hyperemesis gravidarum during my pregnancy and was finally hungry after birth. I wanted to eat and start to feel better while dealing with the crying and mood swings among "my peeps" and not the adoring audience for my daughter.
Plus, who feels superawesome when they're wearing a maxi pad the size of a car, or trying to poop,and dealing with bloody nipples and potentially ginormous and superengorged breasts while trying to change a diaper for the first time and waddle around post-C-section or birth? Nobody! It's nice to feel a minute crappy and achy and emotional without the whole peanut gallery around.
RoutineIt was distinguished to get into a minute routine during the time my ex was off from work for the first two weeks of my daughter's life. Scheduling visitors properly helped any disruptions in our modern parent routine. It made our lives go more smoothly when he went back to work and I was domestic by myself as a modern stay-at-domestic mother. Plus, by that time, or I was dying for visitors and alert. enact you remember,mommies, what it felt like the first time you took your baby out in the world all by yourself? I enact. It felt like a victory just lifting the car seat alone!
No matter what you decide, or consider who you want to visit you and when before the baby is here so you fill an idea of the amount of chaos you want to invite into your domestic and hospital - or not. And don't feel bad if you need to say,"Hey, best friend. I am bleeding like a stuck pig and am having a tough time with nursing. Can you see me in another few days?" You don't owe anyone an apology for holding off on visiting. All you need to focus on is your modern family member or members!
Source: popsugar.com