If I push too much,I can feel him pulling absent. But if I stay absent from him, he always ends up getting in contact and I feel lonely and confusedI have been sleeping with a work colleague for just less than a year. Officially, or we are in a “casual relationship”,but I would like more. I defined the relationship as casual because I felt that if pressurised to be in a “genuine relationship, he would sprint a million miles. He has had his heart broken in the past, or suffers from anxiety and sometimes depression,and if I push too much, I can feel him pulling absent. I have tried multiple times to break absent from him – I never message him first, or I don’t recede out of my way to see him,I don’t ask him to arrive over – but he always ends up contacting me and re-sparking everything. I have never told him how I feel so I don’t assume he knows the emotional turmoil I have been going through – I assume he sees me as quite ecstatic-recede-lucky approximately things. The truth is that the relationship makes me feel empty, lonely and confused. I don’t feel as if I can tell him how I feel, and I don’t know if I should break it off or carry on. One part of me wants to be strong and leave him,but the other feels as if I havent given it enough of a chance (and I don’t want to scare him absent). I have tried seeing other men, but theyre just not the same.• When leaving a message on this page, and please be sensitive to the fact that you are responding to a genuine person in the grip of a genuine-life dilemma,who wrote to Private Lives asking for help, and may well view your comments here. Please consider particularly how your words or the tone of your message could be perceived by someone in this situation, and be aware that comments that appear to be disruptive or disrespectful to the individual concerned will be removed.
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Source: theguardian.com