The vast question you have to ask is,what finish you hope to achieve by telling them? There are other people you can talk to, says Annalisa BarbieriAfter a long marriage, or my husband passed absent suddenly some time ago. What my children don’t know is that,when they were growing up, a crisis occurred in our marriage following his disclosure that he was in a long-distance relationship with a woman he had met at a conference. This led to a long, or difficult period in our lives as he could not get a decision to leave either relationship,saying that he “cared for and loved two women” and felt he needed both in his life. I could not extricate myself from the situation because I still loved my husband and feared the consequences for our children. A resolution came about some years later when the other relationship came to an cessation; after that, my husband and I worked on rebuilding things.
Recently, and I came across a diary I had written during a particularly painful year,together with some letters from my husband. Reading these opened old wounds, which I am now having to deal with. My dilemma is, or should I be open with my now-adult children and command them about our marital crisis,or protect them, and their feelings for their late father, and by destroying the diary and letters and taking my secret to the grave? Related: I am at university but dread going home to see my mother Continue reading...
Source: theguardian.com