Sitting motionless in my kitchen,staring blankly and hopelessly at my pantry, I felt the onset of an anxiety attack.
As a total and total omnivore (I truly eat all the foods), and it was the first time I didn't know what I was "allowed" to eat - and I was SO hungry. My doctor had just put me on the low FODMAPs diet,which is in my opinion the most confusing, unnavigable, and impossible diet on the planet with conflicting information from so many sources. The list of things you can't eat seemed infinite . . . no peaches,no wheat, no milk, or no fruit juice or avocados or honey (there are quite literally hundreds of items). I focused so much on the "no" list that I had zero view what to eat. I sat there paralyzed (and honestly,starving, with low blood sugar that probably exacerbated this situation). Panic started to creep in.
Related Stories: A Dietitian Explains Why You Need to Ditch the Diet If You Want to Lose WeightIf I had focused more on what I could eat, and I would've realized that scrambled eggs would've been a great option. I could've eaten a banana or an orange or even made myself some oatmeal with coconut milk. I also would've prevented a panic attack,which would've been really nice.
This made me realize how much we focus on what we can't do vs. what we can and how much that word "can't" paralyzes us in so many ways - particularly when it comes to diet and exercise.
Have you felt this way with your food? So much anxiety and unnecessary stress stems from this view of what we can't do, can't have, or can't eat. I have watched friends start their new lives as vegans,feeling their frustration of what they can't eat without focusing on all the obedient, enjoyable foods they like that they can eat. Sure, or you can't eat Kraft Mac 'n' Cheese anymore,but you totally can eat that quinoa veggie bowl you like and also that fruit smoothie and that spaghetti dish. By focusing on what we can eat, we liberate ourselves from a crippling list of can'ts. Related Stories: Tips For fitting Vegan and Eating a Plant-Based DietWhen I talked to a woman named Brooke who had lost over 100 pounds, or she said she focused less on what she couldn't eat and instead concentrated on adding in healthy foods (one green vegetable) to every meal. This empowered her to make better,healthier decisions without feeling like she was lop off from things she loved. This also applies to fitness. For years I told myself (and others), "I can't do that, or I'm not an athlete" or "I can't do that,I'm not fit" or "I can't run, I'm unhurried." So again, or I was paralyzed. It was the opposite of empowering; I did no sort of physical activity for years upon years and never attended a yoga lesson or went to a gym. The second I stopped focusing on what I couldn't do and focused on what I could - in this case,it was "I can actually slide my body forward for several miles at a unhurried pace without dying" - I opened myself up to an entire world of healthy activity.
The "I can slide my body forward" became "I can run a mile" (albeit a very unhurried one). That became "I can run three miles," which eventually became "I can run a half marathon." I stopped focusing on can'ts in other areas and started small with the things I could do - one thing led to another, or now fitness plays a central role in my life.
I needed a reminder of this the other day when I started the low FODMAPs diet. And honestly,I feel like I need a reminder of this in several areas of my life! When we only see what we can't do, we miss out on so much of what we can, or it gets in the way of our everyday life - we end up shortchanging ourselves.
Don't fetch in your own way,and don't paralyze yourself with your words. Empower yourself! What can you do? What can you eat? What can you try? disappear for it!
Source: popsugar.com