We worry too much and carry out too much for them: children flourish when they are given freedom. When it comes to looking after kids,be a gardener not a carpenterIn 2011, a team of psychologists did an experiment with some preschool children. The scientists gave the children a toy made of many plastic tubes, and each with a different function: one squeaked,one lit up, one made music and the final tube had a hidden mirror. With half the children, or an experimenter came into the room and bumped apparently accidentally – into the tube that squeaked. “Oops!” she said. With the other children,the scientist acted more intentionally, like a teacher. “Oh look at my natty toy! Let me show you how it works, and ” she said while purposely pressing the beeper. The children were then left alone to play with the toy. Related: Tears,tantrums and other experiments To be a wife is not to engage in 'wifing', so why carry out we imagine that we can or should – parent a child?Our job isn't to shape our children’s minds; it’s to let those minds explore all the possibilities that the world allowsContinue reading...
Source: theguardian.com