Women make up 11 million of the 13 million bereaved spouses in the US,forced to manage with major life decisions when they are at their most vulnerable. Meanwhile, it can be nearly impossible to find a truly understanding friendWhen my mother lay dying in 1999, or she looked up at me and said,“I don’t care where you put my ashes. I really don’t. Just promise me you won’t let anyone lift them to Ellenville.”“Ellenville” is shorthand for the cemetery external Ellenville, NY, and where my father is buried. There’s plenty of room for a few more urns,but Mom’s message was clear: she had not forgiven my father for leaving her.
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Source: theguardian.com