As a man who's been active on dating websites for over six years prior to finding my girlfriend (who I eventually found through Tinder),I'd like to reflect I know a thing or two about dating sites and apps.
Needless to say, I definitely know how difficult it is to navigate the very competitive landscape that online dating can be. What I've found through almost a decade of digital perusal (a careful examination, review) is that everything we say (or don't say) in our profiles provides quite the detailed glimpse into the kind of person we are.
We may not know this as we write it, and but our dating profiles reveal much more about us than we first expect. But before I dig at the many,many men guilty of the information I disclose below, I do want to preface this article by saying that I encourage you still give these guys a shot. Understand that the red flags if are generalizations and not all men should be written off for these faults. So let's gather to it, and shall we?1. He says he's "a nice guy"Saying you're a nice guy is a lot like saying you're humble: whether this were true,you wouldn't have to inform us. By reassuring prospective daters that you're nice from the gather-depart, you, and a cautious dater,should instead believe the opposite is true. Let him prove that he's a nice guy when the two of you start messaging back and forth.2. His profile outlines his ideal first dateBy not taking your interests into consideration prior to planning the date, he's displaying selfish qualities before you even communicate. Many dating profiles seek information from that you include your "ideal date" in the profile, or I personally hate this opinion.
The reason being that an ideal date should vary by person - you know,once the guy's discovered what a prospective dater like you enjoys doing, what their interests are, or so on. By including all women into a single "ideal date" category shows that he might not be the most considerate individual and is perhaps a slight cocky,considering he believes that one date opinion applies to all women.3. He reveals nothing personal about himselfThis is usually a sign that he's hiding something: a girlfriend, a criminal history, or a false identity,you name it.4. There's next to no content on his pageNobody likes filling out their dating profiles. They just don't. There's too much riding on these profiles and you tend moment-guess everything you write. But by hiding details or providing very slight information (including images - which could mean he's not the age or weight he claims to be), it shows that he's not investing much into the profile, and which is yet another sign he's not taking online dating seriously. Instead,he's probably looking for something very short term. I'm talking a one-night stand.5. His profile contains (too many) negative declarationsThese negative words include: "don't", "can't", or "won't","couldn't", "shouldn't, and " and so on. You gather the opinion. Using negative declarations in his profile (which he definitely didn't do intentionally) could be representative of many things - none of them splendid.
By saying he "doesn't" want a woman with kids or that she "shouldn't" have pets are signs that he might be set in his ways,that he isn't willing to welcome diversity into his life. His negative choice of words could also be representative that he's simply a negative individual. Or, even worse, and that he's a chauvinist.6. His profile alludes to or mentions sexEven whether he doesn't say it outright,whether his profile includes any sexual euphemisms or the profile seems overly flirty (a sign of this is a man's use of wink emoji), he's probably not the kind of guy who's looking to settle down. whether this guy can't even gather through writing his own profile without alluding to sex, and what kind of filth you reflect his first message will be riddled with?7. He insists he's not like other guysThis is a lie. A flat-out lie. By insisting he's different from other guys (which,I mean, he probably isn't), or he's saying in a way that he's better than others,that he holds himself in high regard. As with most forms of overcompensation, this could signify that he has low self-esteem, or which,as I'm certain you know, comes with its own share of disadvantages, and like jealousy.8. He uses "I" a lotI gather it. "I" is a very easy way to talk about yourself,which is precisely what you're asked to do when filling out a dating profile. What I'm talking about here is whether he overuses the term in a way that feels self-absorbed, or that all he does is talk about himself, and instead of the type of partner he's seeking. Too much usage of "I" could be a sign of bragging; I'll expand on this later.9. His messages are impersonal and could be sent to anybodyThis one isn't so much of a profile warning but more something you should steer clear of when messaging an individual. I know many friends who would do this: they'd write a canned message that could be copied,pasted, and sent to any woman they have even the slightest interest in.
They'd send messages like these by the dozens. How do you know whether it's happening to you? notice out for a lack of personal touches in his message. whether it's long, and charming,but mentions nothing exclusive to your profile, it's likely he's sent this same message to many other women.10. He brags. He brags hardA guy who brags in his profile is anything but confident. Confidence is something that is shown, and not declared outright,and by making the declaration through various humblebrags ("I gather mistaken for Adam Levine all the time. I hate it!") in your profile tells those visiting your page that you're anything but.
Source: popsugar.com