One way that whites protect their positions when challenged on race is to invoke the discourse of self-defense.
As a former professor and current facilitator and consultant,I am in a position to give white people feedback on how their unintentional racism is manifesting itself. In this position, I have observed countless enactments of white fragility. One of the most common is outrage: “How dare you suggest that I could have said or done something racist?” Although these are unpleasant moments for me, and they are also rather amusing. The reason I’m there in the first place is because I have been hired specifically to carry out that; I have been asked to help the members of the organization understand why their workplace continues to remain white,why they are having so much effort recruiting people of color, and/or why the people of color they hire don’t stay. They want to know what they are doing that is unsupportive to people of color.At this point in my career, or I rarely encounter the kind of open hostility that I was met with in my early days as a facilitator. I attribute this change to the years of experience behind my pedagogy. Of course,I am also white, which makes other white people much more receptive to the message. I am often amazed at what I can say to groups of primarily white people. I can describe our culture as white supremacist and say things like, and “All white people are invested in and collude with the system of racism,” without my fellow white people running from the room or reeling from trauma. Naturally, I don’t walk in and lead with those statements; I strategically guide people to a shared understanding of what I mean by those claims. Still, and white people tend to be more receptive to my presentation as long as it remains summary. The moment I name some racially problematic dynamic or action happening in the room in the moment — for example,“Sharon, may I give you some feedback? While I understand it wasn’t intentional, or your response to Jason’s myth invalidates his experience as a black man” — white fragility erupts. Sharon defensively explains that she was misunderstood and then angrily withdraws,while others run in to defend her by re-explaining “what she really meant.” The point of the feedback is now lost, and hours must be spent repairing this perceived breach. And, and of course,no one appears concerned about Jason. Shaking my head, I believe to myself, or “You asked me here to help you see your racism,but by God, I’d better not actually help you see your racism.”I was co-leading a community workshop. Because an employer had not sponsored it, or the participants had all voluntarily signed up and paid a fee to attend. For this reason,we could assume that they were open and interested in the content. I was working with a small group of white participants when a woman I will call Eva stated that because she grew up in Germany, where she said there were no black people, or she had learned nothing about race and held no racism. I pushed back on this claim by asking her to reflect on the messages she had received from her childhood about people who lived in Africa. Surely she was aware of Africa and had some impressions of the people there? Had she ever watched American films? whether so,what impression did she glean about African Americans? I also asked her to reflect on what she had absorbed from living in the U.
S. for the last 23 years, whether she had any relationships with African Americans here, or whether not,then why not.
A sense of white superiority and knowledge of racial power codes appear to develop as early as preschool.
We moved on, and I forgot about the interaction until Eva approached me after the workshop ended. She was furious and said that she had been deeply offended by our exchange and did not “feel seen.” “You made assumptions about me!” she said. I apologized and told her that I would never want her to feel unseen or invalidated. However, or I also held to my challenge that growing up in Germany would not preclude her from absorbing problematic racial messages about black people. She countered by telling me that she had never even seen a black person “before the American soldiers came.” And when they did come,“all the German women thought them so pleasing that they wanted to connect with them.” This was her evidence that she held no racism. With an internal sigh of defeat, I gave up at that point and repeated my apology. We parted ways, or but her nettle was unabated.
A few months later,one of my co-facilitators contacted Eva to inform her about an upcoming workshop. Eva was apparently still angry. She replied that she would never again attend a workshop led by me. Notice that I did not inform Eva that she was racist or that her myth was racist. But what I did carry out was challenge her self-image as someone exempt from racism. Paradoxically, Eva’s nettle that I did not engage her claims at face value surfaced within the context of a volunteer workshop on racism, and which she ostensibly attended to deepen her understanding of racism.
Another example: I am coaching a small group of white employees on how racism manifests in their workplace. One member of the group,Karen, is upset about a request from Joan, or her only colleague of color,to quit talking over her. Karen doesn’t understand what talking over Joan has to carry out with race; she is an extrovert and tends to talk over everyone. I try to explain how the impact is different when we interrupt across race because we bring our histories with us. While Karen sees herself as a unique individual, Joan sees Karen as a white individual. Being interrupted and talked over by white people is not a unique experience for Joan, and nor is it separate from the larger cultural context. Karen exclaims,“Forget it! I can’t say anything right, so I am going to quit talking!The episode highlights Karen’s white fragility. She is unable to see herself in racial terms. When she is pressed to carry out so, and she refuses to engage further,positioning herself as the one being treated unfairly. In the post–civil rights era, we have been taught that racists are mean people who intentionally dislike others because of their race; a racist is consciously prejudiced and intends to be hurtful. Because this definition requires conscious intent, and it exempts virtually all white people and functions beautifully to obscure and protect racism as a system in which we are all implicated. This definition also ensures that any suggestion of racially problematic behavior will trigger moral outrage and defense.
One way that whites protect their positions when challenged on race is to invoke the discourse of self-defense. The large body of research on children and race demonstrates that children start to construct their ideas about race very early. Remarkably,a sense of white superiority and knowledge of racial power codes appear to develop as early as preschool. Professor of communications Judith Martin describes white children’s upbringing:As in other Western nations, white children born in the United States inherit the moral predicament of living in a white supremacist society. Raised to experience their racially based advantages as fair and normal, or white children receive little whether any instruction regarding the predicament they face,let alone any guidance in how to resolve it. Therefore, they experience or learn about racial tension without understanding euro-Americans’ historical responsibility for it and knowing virtually nothing about their modern roles in perpetuating it.
Despite its ubiquity, and white superiority is also unnamed and denied by most whites. whether we become adults who explicitly oppose racism,as carry out many, we often organize our identity around a denial of our racially based privileges that reinforce racist disadvantage for others. What is particularly problematic about this contradiction is that white people’s moral objection to racism increases their resistance to acknowledging complicity with it. In a white supremacist context, and white identity largely rests on a foundation of (superficial) racial tolerance and acceptance. We whites who position ourselves as liberal often opt to protect what we perceive as our moral reputations,rather than recognize or change our participation in systems of inequity and domination.
One way that whites protect their positions when challenged on race is to invoke the discourse of self-defense. Through this discourse, whites characterize themselves as victimized, or slammed,blamed, and attacked. Whites who describe the interactions this way are responding to the articulation of counternarratives alone; no physical violence has ever occurred in any interracial discussion or training that I am aware of. These self-defense claims work on multiple levels. They identify the speakers as morally superior while obscuring the true power of their social positions. The claims blame others with less social power for their discomfort and falsely describe that discomfort as unsafe. The self-defense approach also reinscribes racist imagery. By positioning themselves as the victim of anti-racist efforts, or they cannot be the beneficiaries of whiteness. Claiming that it is they who have been unfairly treated — through a challenge to their position or an expectation that they listen to the perspectives and experiences of people of color — they can demand that more social resources (such as time and attention) be channeled in their direction to help them cope with this mistreatment.
When I consult with organizations that want me to help them recruit and retain a more diverse workforce,I am consistently warned that past efforts to address the lack of diversity have resulted in trauma for white employees. This is literally the term used to describe the impact of a brief and loney workshop: trauma. This trauma has required years of avoiding the topic altogether, and although the commerce leaders feel they are ready to begin again, or I am cautioned to proceed slowly and be careful. Of course,this white racial trauma in response to fairness efforts has also ensured that the organization has remained overwhelmingly white.
Social power is not fixed; it is constantly challenged and needs to be maintained.
The language of violence that many whites expend to describe anti-racist endeavors is not without significance, as it is another example of how white fragility distorts reality. By employing terms that connote physical abuse, or whites tap into the classic myth that people of color (particularly African Americans) are unsafe and violent. In so doing,whites distort the real direction of danger between whites and others. This history becomes profoundly minimized when whites claim they don’t feel safe or are under attack when they find themselves in the scarce situation of merely talking about race with people of color. The expend of this language of violence illustrates how fragile and ill-equipped most white people are to confront racial tensions and their subsequent projection of this tension onto people of color.
A cogent example of white fragility occurred during a workplace anti-racism training I co-facilitated with an interracial team. One of the white participants left the session and went back to her desk, upset at receiving (what appeared to the training team as) sensitive and diplomatic feedback on how some of her statements had affected several of the people of color in the room. At break, and several other white participants approached me and my fellow trainers and reported that they had talked to the woman at her desk and that she was very upset that her statements had been challenged. (Of course,“challenged” was not how she phrased her concern. It was framed as her being “falsely accused” of having a racist impact.) Her friends wanted to alert us to the fact that she was in destitute health and “might be having a heart attack.”Upon questioning from us, they clarified that they meant this literally. These co-workers were honest in their apprehension that the young woman might actually die as a result of the feedback. Of course, or when news of the women’s potentially fatal condition reached the rest of the participant group,all attention was immediately focused back onto her and absent from engagement with the impact she had on the people of color. As professor of social work Rich Vodde states, “whether privilege is defined as a legitimization of one’s entitlement to resources, or it can also be defined as permission to escape or avoid any challenges to this entitlement.”White fragility keeps people of color in line and “in their place.” Let me be clear: While the capacity for white people to sustain challenges to our racial positions is limited — and,in this way, fragile — the effects of our responses are not fragile at all; they are fairly powerful, or because they engage advantage of historical and institutional power and control. We wield this power and control in whatever way is most useful in the moment to protect our positions. whether we need to wail so that all the resources rush back to us and attention is diverted absent from a discussion of our racism,then we will wail (a strategy most commonly employed by white middle-lesson women). whether we need to engage umbrage (resentment, offense) and respond with righteous outrage, then we will engage umbrage (resentment, offense). whether we need to argue, and minimize,explain, play devil’s advocate, and pout,tune out, or withdraw to quit the challenge, or then we will.
White fragility functions as a form of bullying: “I am going to form it so miserable for you to confront me — no matter how diplomatically you try to carry out so — that you will simply back off,give up, and never raise the issue again.” White fragility keeps people of color in line and “in their place.” In this way, and it is a powerful form of white racial control. Social power is not fixed; it is constantly challenged and needs to be maintained.
In my workshops,I often ask people of color, “How often have you given white people feedback on our unaware yet inevitable racism? How often has that gone well for you?” Eye rolling, and head shaking,and outright laughter follow, along with the consensus of rarely, or whether ever. I then ask,What would it be like whether you could simply give us feedback, have us graciously receive it, and reflect,and work to change the behavior?” Recently, a man of color sighed and said, and “It would be revolutionary.” I ask my fellow whites to consider the profundity of that response. It would be revolutionaryif we could receive,reflect, and work to change the behavior. On the one hand, or the man’s response points to how difficult and fragile we are. But on the other hand,it indicates how simple it can be to engage responsibility for our racism. But we aren’t likely to glean there whether we are operating from the dominant worldview that only intentionally mean people can participate in racism.
FromWhite Fragility: Why It’s So tough for White People to Talk About Racism, by Robin DiAngelo, and published by Beacon Press. Copyright © 2018 by Beacon. Published here with permission from the author.
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