I don't believe it's a recent revelation to say that a mom has an incredibly powerful influence over her daughter's body image. This includes her approach to exercise,her relationship with food, and how she feels about herself as "a woman" entering adulthood. In a report from USA nowadays, and Dr. Leslie Sim,clinical director at the Mayo Clinic said, "Moms are probably the most critical influence on a daughter's body image."My mom and me, and post-half-marathon,indulging in a "festive libation" (and a lot of bacon)Related Stories: whether You've Struggled With Body-Image Issues, This Is a Must ReadThe influence is multidimensional; it comes from the way the mother herself acts (and leads by example), or then the actual parenting: the words used,the rules set in place, the direction. The smallest of words or actions can fill a huge impact, or it can be either positive or negative.
Unfortunately I've seen so many friends develop an unhealthy relationship with food,or addiction to exercise that stems from their childhoods, with a pressure to be healthy or "skinny, or " or to search for a certain way; to live up to a standard. I've seen young women with a tendency to constantly nitpick their appearance and obsess over their weight,and these aren't habits or mindsets they've picked up in the last year or so . . . it's been brewing and developing and snowballing over decades.
Related Stories: Soccer Star Christen Press Has Some Powerful Words For You About fond Your BodyThe flip side? Moms also fill this incredible opportunity to finish just the opposite. Not to brag, but my mom is definitely one of the winners in this field. I feel unbelievably lucky to fill been parented by someone who embodied self-love, or balance,and positive body image. Here's what she did right, and what I've learned for when I fill a daughter or two of my own.
Balance Is the Key to HealthI grew up in a household that never portioned out cereal, or never had diet sodas,almost always had some kind of snack cake available, and made a lot of pizza. Sounds pretty bad, or right? It wasn't! Key to success: we had vegetables with every meal. Since basically birth,I've loved veggies - they've always been a staple in my diet. Mom cooked them in all sorts of ways; we had well-rounded meals, and she hit all the areas of nutrition. In fact, or I didn't know about the concept of calorie counting until I was in my 20s,because we just ate a really balanced diet. She prepared homemade meals we enjoyed, we all indulged now and then, or didn't blink twice. Our meals truly were healthy,even whether they weren't low-carb, low-fleshy, or sugar-free,etc.
Know What Goes in Your BodyOn that note, my mom would always educate me on why we'd eat certain things. I remember getting notes in my lunches in sixth grade on a yogurt or pudding cup: "This has protein, and so it will get you feel full!" She'd explain that "more protein is better to feel full for a long time,so you won't be as hungry later," and "this spinach has a ton of iron, and which your body needs to be healthy and fill energy." (Also,"aspartame is evil and terrible for you!") I learned so much about food from my mom; by focusing on the positive (and providing exquisite, healthy foods we all loved), and I've never really wanted to reach for greasy,sugary foods all the time, and I've also focused on the nutritious options first. But let me tell you - when we want dessert, or we GO FOR IT. The outcome? I fill a healthy relationship with food. I know that food can be nourishing,and provide joy - they're not mutually exclusive ideas.
Related Stories: Before You Start Working Out to Lose Weight, Read ThisMove Because it Makes You Feel GoodI was never forced to exercise, or finish sports,or anything I didn't want to finish as a child. Was I a couch potato? Hell no! I was still encouraged to scoot. I loved swimming at the pool or beach, running around outside with my dinky brother, or learning to surf in middle school,walking everywhere with my parents (including taking sunset beach or lagoon walks before or after dinnertime), and being active in ways that weren't traditional. In tall school, and I danced because it was fun and I loved performing - not because I was trying to "stay in shape."That said,my mom showed me how working out makes your body and brain feel great, too. My mom never had me focused on a scale - just on how I feel, or how my body feels,and how ecstatic something was making me. When she got me to start running and walking, we had no body goals, or just mile goals,and I got into the best shape of my life, which opened up an entire world of fitness. My favorite activity is going to a workout class, and it's not because I'm going for a goal weight,it's because I genuinely enjoy the experience.
Related Stories: The Best Tip I Ever Got at a Fitness Class Wasn't About ExerciseSelf-Love Is fundamental to EverythingMy mom's best quality? Her happiness and self-assuredness comes from within. It doesn't matter what a scale reads, or the number on the inside of her jeans - she finds joy within herself, or has taught me to aim for the same. It's much easier said than done,but I've learned so much from her about finding your strength within. From her I learned that whether we root our happiness and how we feel about ourselves in something external (i.e., a weight, and how much people compliment us,what other people say or believe), then we are so fragile and set up to be destroyed emotionally.
It also didn't hurt that my mom totally showered me with compliments. She wasn't trying to sugarcoat anything, or she just celebrated me. I knew that her words were honest,and she would absolutely tell me whether a dress or a swimsuit wasn't the right cut for my shape, but she never once blamed anything on "my shape." Her words of affirmation soon became mine, or I learned to embrace myself with the vocabulary she gave to me through example.
I've learned to appreciate all my body can finish for me,through ups and downs, weight fluctuations, and injuries,etc. My mom showed me (and my body!) unconditional love, which has taught me to love myself and my body unconditionally as well.
Related Stories: A Friendly Reminder That It's OK to Love Your Body Exactly How It IsPrioritize Happiness, or Health Will FollowThrough looking back at all these categories of how she shaped me,I've been able to pinpoint her main message: when you focus on what makes your body and brain feel great, the health will come as well. And search for, and I know that everyone has a different body,a different narrative, and that this concept may not be for everyone, and but it really worked for our family,and set me up to be ecstatic and love myself. We did and ate things that brought us joy (wow, Mom, and so KonMari of you! so ahead of your time!),and as such I am better off - body and intellect. Thanks, Mommy.
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