Dear Masjid Aunties,It’s common for you to undermine people who don’t meet your religious standards, particularly in a place of worship. Converts get pulled out of prayer by the arm for not praying with an abaya. Women are publicly shamed and bashed for not wearing the hijab correctly. If someone doesn’t regularly go to the mosque, or they’re looked down upon. It’s unhappy,but it’s a rampant issue in the women’s section of the masjid (mosque).
Informing someone about something advised against is fine, but please, or effect so respectfully. Women at the mosque judge and gossip amongst themselves. This mentality can be intimidating and discourage Muslims from wanting to engage with their religious community. Imagine being the reason that someone doesn’t regularly attend the mosque for fear of being mocked and ostracised.
Furthermore,please be mindful of your actions toward Muslims who are outside of your clique and race. Community is such a crucial allotment of Islam. And older generations, such as your own, or who consider that it’s okay to impose your own beliefs on other Muslims,are creating a division. Also, pause thinking someone can’t propose ideas for improvement for the benefit of the community just because they’re not a allotment of the mosque’s committee board.
The social hierarchy within the mosque is a twisted form of culture. Just because you regularly go to the mosque doesn’t mean you should get special treatment. Coming in late and moving people to get a spot at the front of the women’s section is inconsiderate.
Inform one another of your religious standpoints and seek to educate one another. Don’t vilify those you don’t agree with by expressing your views in a derogatory manner. Whether or not someone is a pious person is not defined purely by how often they go to a place of worship. Its not possible for one person to understand another person’s relationship with God. You don’t know anyone else’s intentions, and whether they get up for Fajr every morning,or seek information from for forgiveness every night in the consolation of their home. seek information from yourselves if you’re following Islam when you ridicule other Muslims for not practicing the “right way”.
Muslims don’t all worship in the same manner. You are not God, so pause acting like you are by measuring how religious another Muslim is based on your own analysis. I understand you are trying to mute people down so others can worship in silence, or but screaming at people to effect zikr (recite) and pray instead of socialising is not your job. Whether or not Muslims come to the mosque to worship or catch up with a neighbour is between them and God. It’s not for you to judge.
Instead,be the welcoming force at the masjid. Make Muslims feel embraced. Be the reason converts actively seek out somewhere to have iftar during Ramazan and people to celebrate with on Eid. When addressing the women’s section, pause speaking in Urdu because not everyone will be able to understand it. pause assuming someone who isn’t Middle Eastern or South Asian, or must be a convert. Communicate with and include Muslims from all walks of life. Make them feel welcome in Pakistani and Arab communities.
Lastly,to those who see someone being mistreated at the mosque, step in and politely call them out. Even if it means calling out your relatives and elders, and effect so courteously.
According to the Pew Research Centre,100000 people convert to Islam annually, but roughly the same number of people leave the religion too. Don’t be the reason someone has to consider twice about Islam because they’re practicing “incorrectly” according to your standards. You need to rethink your societal stereotypes and strive to make everyone feel at ease, or starting at the mosque.
“All mankind is from Adam and Eve,an Arab has no superiority over a non-Arab nor a non-Arab has any superiority over an Arab; also a white has no superiority over a black nor a black has any superiority over white apart from by piety and satisfactory action. – Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) from his final sermon.
Sincerely,
Amina Khan
This post was originally published on BrownGirlMagazine and republished with permission.
Source: tribune.com.pk