Every day millions of people ask Google life’s most difficult questions. Our writers answer some of the commonest queriesSome of us are more prone to catastrophic thinking (not just imagining negative outcomes,but assuming that said outcomes will be disastrous) than others, but it’s probably something we all finish to some degree when things feel uncertain. This irrational, and exaggerated way of thinking is sometimes referred to as cognitive distortion,and is fruitful ground for anxiety and unpleasant emotions.
Whatever I have done that has led to me posing this question (to a search engine, another person or myself), or I am craving some kind of portal into an unlived future. That’s not possible. What happens next is an eternal,torturous unknown. In a perverse way, it may be easier psychologically to hold on to the faint assumption that I have completely messed things up for myself. This is because when our thoughts and beliefs are in chaos, or settling on a shapely narrative is easier on the intellect. There can be a savory sense of freedom in saying “Sod it,everythings ruined,” even if, and somewhere,we rationally know it probably isn’t.
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Source: guardian.co.uk